Why Is She Talking to Me If She Has a Boyfriend?

We all want to think that we are special enough for someone to want to be in a relationship with us. What we need to understand is that the person who is talking to you or trying to date you may not want the same thing. This is something that you have to consider and take into account.

If a woman continues to talk to you when she has a boyfriend, the girl might see you as a fallback. She doesn’t want to be alone, and she knows you’re there. She can’t hide the fact that she is seeing another person in front of you.

There are a number of signs she’s just not that into you, but they’re hard to notice if you haven’t experienced it before. Here is a list of ways she could be telling you that she has no interest in pursuing any kind of relationship with you.

Here are some signs to help you tell if she is not interested in a relationship with you.

35 Signs She’s Just Not That Into You

#1 She’s Flirty

She’s always flirting with you. She likes being the center of attention and she likes to get men’s attention. You’re her main target. She may look at you as a prize. She likes to enjoy your company, but she needs to keep you in the friend zone. That’s just what she’s looking for. Don’t let her kiss your neck. She’s just playing with your emotions and she’s not that serious about you.

#2 She Doesn’t Make Time for You

Even if you have an appointment with her, she may not show up. She’s always busy at the last minute. She makes you wait and then she does not show up. That’s because she doesn’t want to be in a relationship. She wants to keep you at a distance so she can play with you and have fun on her own. She loves the attention she gets from you and she knows she can have fun without having to commit to you.

#3 She Likes to be the Center of Attention

Do you notice how she loves to be the center of attention in any kind of group? It doesn’t matter if it’s a social gathering or at work. She wants everyone’s attention at all times. If you’re one of those people who are willing to make her laugh, trying to get attention from her, then you’ll become her target.

#4 She Has a Lot of Other Interests

She has a lot of priorities. She’s got a lot of friends and she likes to read and cook. She’s getting ready for a new phase of her life that she wants to enjoy. You may be in the way of that. That’s why, she’s not that into you. That’s just how it is. You can’t complain. She doesn’t want to be your girlfriend. She just wants to be friends with you.

#5 She Talks About Her Exes

If she talks about her exes to you, you should know that she’s not serious about dating you. She likes talking about her exes to boost her confidence. That’s another way of enjoying your feelings for her. She likes to talk about her exes because she feels good, and you make her feel good too. You’re there to boost her up. She’s not there for the long haul.

#6 She Thinks You’re Just Friends

If she thinks the two of you can only be friends, then that’s a sure sign that she isn’t looking for a romantic relationship with you. Just because you’re talking doesn’t mean that she feels the same way that you do. It’s natural for her to assume that the two of you are going to remain friends if it’s just casual talk all around.

#7 She Try’s to Keep the Distance

A woman who has no interest in a relationship will do whatever she can to keep you at a distance. She doesn’t want the two of you to become close because there’s no future in it for her. She knows that if she keeps the emotional and physical distance, it will make it easy for her to reject your advances.

#8 She Needs Someone is Waiting in the Wings

She keeps you as her back up. You’re the one that’s been there for her and has kept her company, but she won’t put you first. If she gets a chance to be in a relationship with someone else, she’s going to do that. This is why you need to understand that she doesn’t want the same thing as you do. You want a relationship, and she’s not interested in that.

#9 She’s Always Busy

If she never seems to have time for you or you don’t ever see her when you want to, then it’s obvious that she’s not interested in being in a relationship with you. She’s always busy . She’s got her own plans. You want to see her and she won’t respond to your messages or your texts. When you call her, she doesn’t pick up. This is the sign you need to know that she does not want to be your girlfriend. She just wants to keep you around.

#10 She Won’t Commit to a Date

If the woman that you’re interested in continues to cancel your plans and avoids making concrete plans with you, then it’s obvious that she doesn’t want the two of you to go on any kind of date. If the two of you are trying to get together, and she’s always cancelling, then it’s best if you move on.

#11 She’s Available When You’re Not

Even if you want to get together, if she’s only available when you are not, then that’s a sure sign that she doesn’t feel the same way about you. She might think the two of you have a lot in common and wants to get together, but if it doesn’t happen or she keeps cancelling on you, then that is a sure sign that there is no romantic interest on her end.

#12 She Doesn’t Respond to Your Emails

The two of you have been talking, but you never get any kind of response to your emails. She might be busy , but it can also be a sign that she doesn’t feel comfortable writing back to you. It could also be a sign that she is just flirting with you and not interested in being anything more than a friend.

#13 She Won’t Introduce You to Her Friends

Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells with her? That’s a sign that she is not ready to go beyond friendship. She doesn’t want to risk the chance of dealing with any kind of awkward situation by introducing you to her friends. You should take the hint because that’s a definite sign that she is not interested in having anything serious with you.

#14 She Talks About Other Guys

The two of you talk and she keeps talking about other guys. She might be just making conversation, but if she keeps bringing up other guys, then this is a sign that she is not interested in you. She just wants a friend and nothing more. Think about playing it cool and staying away from her.

#15 She Doesn’t Want to See You in Private

She might have a desire for your attention in public, but not in a more intimate setting. She will never suggest getting together after work or on the weekends when you’re free. You’ll never get a private invitation to her house. That’s a sure sign that she feels more comfortable with your being around other people.

#16 She Doesn’t Get Excited Around You

There is no spark in her eyes when she is around you. She doesn’t look energized, excited, or happy. You can tell by the way that she acts that she is not excited about being with you. She might be interested in you, but she isn’t as interested as you are. That’s a sign that she isn’t that attracted to you.

#17 She Doesn’t Invite You to Her Events

Here’s another sign that she isn’t attracted to you. She doesn’t invite you to events that she has coming up. These could be something simple like a dinner party or a birthday party that her friends are hosting. If you don’t get invited to these events, she is not interested in you.

#18 She Never Uses the Word “We”

She may be talking about you, but she never uses the word “we” when it comes to describing or talking about you. She avoids using the word “we” when speaking about her and you. The way she describes the relationship is more like a friend than a potential boyfriend. That’s a sign that she doesn’t see you as a romantic prospect.

#19 She Doesn’t Make You Feel Important

No one should be able to take your self-esteem away from you or make you feel bad about who you are. However, when a girl doesn’t make you feel like a priority in life, then it’s definitely time to look for better options. You deserve to be and feel important in your life and in her life.

#20 She Doesn’t Care What You Think

She is not interested in trying to impress you or get your approval. The way she acts is not about trying to make you feel special. She doesn’t care about how you feel about her. But that’s not to say she doesn’t care about you at all. She only cares about your opinion in a casual, friendly fashion.

#21 She Won’t Bring You Home to Her Family

Unless the woman you’re with is serious about you, she doesn’t want to introduce you to her family. That doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you or she doesn’t want to be your friend. It just means that she’s not interested in seeing you as more than a casual friend. You should know that she’s not interested in having a committed relationship with you.

#22 She Doesn’t Spend Time With You Alone

There are two kinds of women, ones who will spend time with you alone and ones who will just hang out with you when they’re hanging out with their friends. If she doesn’t want to be alone with you, then she is not interested in having a serious relationship with you. She just wants to have fun and that’s it.

#23 She Won’t Hold Your Hand

In a relationship, it’s very important to hold hands and do all kinds of loving things with the person you love. If she won’t hold your hand, then it’s obvious that she’s not interested in having any kind of relationship. It’s possible that she will hold your hand, but you know that there is no real commitment on her end. That woman may have a friendship with you, but it certainly isn’t to the level of a serious relationship.

#24 She Doesn’t Ask You About Your Friends

Just because she wants to be you friend doesn’t mean that she wants to know about you and your life. She never asks what your friends do or how they’re doing. She doesn’t want to know about your life, and that’s the sign that she doesn’t see you as a serious prospect. You’re just a friend to her.

#25 She Won’t Ask You for More

Do you notice that she doesn’t seem to want to push the envelope when it comes to getting to know you? While she’s open to talking and being friends, she doesn’t seem all that interested in finding out more about who you are. Women who are interested in a relationship with someone will be eager to learn more about you. That’s a sign that she isn’t as interested in getting to know you as much as she would like to lead on.

#26 She Doesn’t Try to Become More Closer to You

The moment that you start to get close, she will try to get farther away. That is a clear sign that she doesn’t want to get serious with you. She likes the fact that she can call you up and talk to you whenever she wants. You can tell a lot about a woman by the way that she behaves when she wants to remain a friend.

#27 She Doesn’t Make Any Efforts to Attract You

Naturally, women will make every effort to attract a man that she is interested in. However, if you notice that she is making no effort to do this, then it’s a clear sign that she does not want to be in a relationship with you. That’s mean she doesn’t care how you think of her. She just wants to be your friend and nothing more.

#28 She Prefers Small Talk

Small talk is usually the first thing you do after meeting someone. You want to get to know each other better, and it’s a casual way of doing it. Just as you’re getting to know her better, she will start talking about irrelevant things like television shows or movies without saying anything really important about herself. This is a sign that she is not interested in getting close enough to share her story with you.

#29 She Won’t Tell You How She Feels About You

Women know how to express themselves. Not only will they tell you their thoughts, but they will also tell you if they are feeling any sort of attraction towards you. But if she won’t share her feelings with you or she will avoid talking about anything important, then that’s a sign that she is not that interested in you.

#30 She Doesn’t Talk About the Future

In a relationship, it’s important that both people are interested in having a future together. If you are talking about your future together and she never seems to take the conversation in that direction, then that’s a sign that she doesn’t see you as a romantic option. She sees you as just a casual friend.

#31 She Is Disinterested in the Things That Are Important to You

Unless a woman is interested in you, she won’t be interested in the things that are important to you. She isn’t going to care about your interests or the things that are important to you. Do you find that she doesn’t care about what you do for a living or the hobbies that you enjoy? That’s a clear sign that she doesn’t want to go any further than friendship.

#32 She Doesn’t Let You in Her Life

Maybe she wants to be your friend, but she doesn’t want you in her life. She keeps her life private and does not want you to be privy to her feelings or the things that are happening in her life. Every personal thing that is going on in her life is her business and you won’t get a chance to find out about it. That’s a sign that she is not open to the idea of a relationship with you.

#33 She Doesn’t Really Care About Your Achievements

The moment that you tell her about your achievements, she should show some kind of interest in what you’re doing. That means she’s paying attention to you. She should ask you about it. When she’s not that into you, she doesn’t care enough to ask about your day or what your plans are. She just wants to talk about herself.

#34 She Refuses to Introduce You to Her Friends

She avoids introducing you to her friends because she doesn’t want them to know about you or to get too close to you. She doesn’t want them to know that you exist because she doesn’t want to have you in her life. That’s a sign that she just wants to remain friends with you and nothing more. She doesn’t want to get close enough to you to share her life with you.

#35 She Doesn’t Really Care About You

She cares about you as a friend, but not as much as you care about her. She doesn’t show the same level of interest in your life that you have in hers. You don’t feel like she is interested in you or she wants to know more about you. She is not really concerned about your happiness or your problems. She just cares about you in a friendly and casual manner.

Final Thoughts…

There are many signs that tell you if a woman is attracted to you or not. Some of the signs are very obvious, and you can see them right away. Others are more subtle, but if you pay attention to them, you will be able to spot them as well.

Hopefully this list will help you notice if she is interested in you or not. Take note of everything she does and how she behaves. Readjust your expectations for the relationship, and you will be able to avoid heartbreak and disappointment.


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