I’ve been there. You have just finished the most romantic evening in the world with your boyfriend, then he wakes you up the next morning with a “we need to talk.” Your heart drops, and you just know he is about to break up with you. And it hurts. Really hurts.
And the worst part is that your emotions are all over the place. You’re angry, sad, disappointed, hopeless. It feels like he is the love of your life and that nothing will ever be the same again. The truth is that breakups really are that painful, even when you see it coming from miles away.
The pain is real, and it can last a long time. You may feel unlovable, in need of a shoulder to cry on, or like you just made the biggest mistake of your life. And then you start to wonder if you can fix it. The more you try to figure out what to do, the more confused you get. You know your relationship is over, but you also can’t let go.
I know what you’re feeling. I’ve been dumped before, and it changed my life completely. I know what it feels like to be utterly devastated. The pain is intense, and the emotions can get so overwhelming that you feel like you might completely fall apart. You want to get back together, but he made it clear that he doesn’t want to be with you anymore.
So what now?
Are you doomed to a life of sadness and loneliness? No! You can still have the life of your dreams. And yes, even get back together with your ex. It takes some work, but you can get back on track. And here are some tips I recommended you start with.
23 Ways to Make Your Ex Regret Losing You
1. Be Strong
Okay, it’s normal to be angry and cry, but keep in mind that you can’t really show your ex how much he hurts you. For example, don’t get angry and yell at him whenever he apologizes. It’s better to simply express your feelings through writing, or even through a little bit of silence. Make sure that you are not being too clingy, and don’t constantly text him or call him. Remember that the less you show him that you are hurting, the more he will want you back.
2. Be Confident
You have to be confident, and you have to show it. This means that you can’t sit around the house in your pajamas with sad music. Therefore, you have to make an effort to dress up, go out with your friends, and smile. Show the world that you are okay, and that everything will be okay again. If you feel better about yourself, people around you will see that. In the end, you will be more attractive to him than ever.
3. Be Unsympathetic
Don’t be too emotional. It’s important that you stop crying, getting angry, or begging him to take you back. You have to be the one who is in control, and you can’t let him see that you are emotionally vulnerable. For example, don’t text him and say , “This is so upsetting, I can’t take it anymore.” Don’t make comments like, “I can’t live without you! I need you!” Be firm and unemotional when you communicate with your ex. Remember: the less you cry or beg, the more he will want you back.
4. Be Nice
This is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s the opposite. You have to be nice to him, and you have to be nice to him right away after your break up. This may seem like a paradox, but it is actually a very healthy way of dealing with the situation. Being nice will help you get over him faster, as it will remind you how great your relationships used to be. Moreover, being nice is the right way to encourage him to come back and apologize.
5. Let Him Know That You Are Happy
Do you always look as if you are sad and miserable, even when you want to be happy? Maybe it’s time to stop doing that. You should be able to enjoy your life and let him know it. Show him that you are enjoying yourself out in the world, having fun with your friends and hanging out with colleagues. You need to realize that you’ve been through something bad, but you can still be happy. If he sees how happy you are, he might regret the breakup and come back to you.
6. Keep Your Distance
Unfortunately, most of us, when we are left by someone we love, tend to try and get back with them. Don’t do that. The moment you start texting him or calling him, he will know you want to get back together. Keep your distance, and don’t try to contact him for at least a week. Don’t be too pushy by trying to keep your ex interested in you. Keep things casual and easy until he attempts to contact you. If he does, then you can take it from there.
7. Hang Out With Someone He Hates
Yes, this is an unusual tip. But it can work. If you want him to regret losing you, then hang out with someone he hates just a little bit. You don’t have to go out with the guy, but you can still be around him and even talk about him. Your ex will certainly notice this, and he will become very jealous. If he sees you hanging out with another guy, and if that other guy seems to be a better boyfriend than he ever was, he definitely won’t be happy about it.
8. Lose Weight
If you have put on a few pounds since the breakup, now is the time to lose them. It might be hard, but you need to do it. It will not only make you feel better and more attractive, but it will also remind your ex of how good you looked before the breakup, and he might regret losing you. Also, you should always tell people that you lost the weight so that they will be supportive of you and help you get back in shape.
9. Post Pictures on Social Media
A picture can say a thousand words, and so can your Facebook post. If you have lost a decent amount of weight, post pictures of you looking great. Post a few pictures of you having fun with your friends, and post some beautiful landscape pictures. If he sees that you are looking good and having fun, it will make him jealous and regret losing you. But beware, if you post too many pictures he will get suspicious.
10. Be Grateful
You may have been hurt by your ex-boyfriend, but this is not the time to act out on that hurt. He broke up with you for a reason, and most likely it was because he didn’t like something about you. Instead of getting angry or defensive, be grateful that he left you and now you know exactly what you have to improve upon. In addition, since he broke up with you, you can now put your time and effort into getting the most out of your life without having to worry about relationships.
11. Go Out & Party
Just because you are now single doesn’t mean you have to sit around your apartment feeling sorry for yourself. Get out there and enjoy life. Go to a sports bar, go to a concert, go dancing at a club, or go do something fun with your friends. You have nothing to lose by getting out and having fun. You will be surprised at how much fun you can have when you are single. If your ex-boyfriend sees you having fun on social media, it will make him feel jealous and regret breaking up with you.
12. Be an Optimist
Even though you are hurt and upset, try to be an optimist. When he broke up with you, there had to be something wrong. But instead of focusing on the negative, focus on how you are going to get better. Listen to motivational podcasts or watch videos on Youtube. You may not feel like it now, but in the end, you will be grateful for what you learned. If he sees you a better person, he will regret breaking up with you.
13. Take Some Classes
You know you want to learn how to use a mixer, but you just don’t have the time. Now is the time to take some classes. You can learn how to cook, how to do your hair, or how to speak Spanish. All of these are great ways of improving your life and building confidence. The last thing you want is to have regrets about not learning a new skill. This will not only make him regret breaking up with you, but also give the two of you something new to talk about.
14. Be Your Own Person
It’s time to stop pining after him and realize that you’re better off without him. You should spend your time focusing on yourself, improving yourself, and learning about who you really are. It’s time to stop letting someone else make your life so hard, and the sooner you start doing that, the sooner you’ll stop feeling like a victim. When he realizes that you are capable of being your own person he will regret breaking up with you because now you are more attractive than ever.
15. Look Better Than Ever
Okay, let’s face it. It’s no secret that people are attracted to beautiful people. If you’re tired of looking like a bum, then it’s time to change that. Put on some make-up, go shopping for new clothes, and start dressing better than you ever have before. You can even go to a beauty salon and get your hair done. There’s no reason why you can’t take good care of yourself. It might even make him regret breaking up with you because now he will see that you are a very attractive person.
16. Take On a New Hobby
Give yourself a new hobby. Take up painting, dancing, or even knitting. Something that you have always wanted to try but never got around to. Now is the time to get creative and learn about something new. Once you’ve taken up your new hobby, post pictures of yourself doing it on social media. This will certainly make him curious about what your new hobby is. And once he begins asking you about it, it’s your decision whether or not to tell him.
17. Get Into a New Activity
Getting involved in a new activity will help you to get your mind off of your ex-boyfriend, because it will be something that you enjoy doing. If there is one thing that you used to do with him, start doing it on your own and be sure that he does not know about it. When he sees that you are having a better time without him, he will regret ever letting you go.
18. Let Him See Other People
It’s time that you began seeing other people. You should go out with friends or go on a date. Be sure to be open about it, and share all of your dates on social media to let him know that you are moving on. This will remind him that he was not the only one in your life, and it will remind him of what he is missing. This is the perfect opportunity for you to show him that you are not the person he thinks you are, and that you are worthy of 100% of his attention.
19. Have Friends You Can Depend On
Stop thinking about him all the time. It’s time that you learn to rely on your friends. If you need something, let them know. Or if you want to have some fun, ask your friends to go on a trip with you. Having friends that you can talk to and trust is the number one way to start rebuilding your life. When he sees that you are having a better time without him and that you are relying on your friends, he will realize how great you truly are.
20. Have a Great Career
Do you always feel like you are working for somebody else, instead of making your own way in the world? If so, it’s time to make a change. It doesn’t matter if you’re not the smartest person in the world. It means that you have to work a little harder to get what you want. Right now, it’s time for you to focus on your career and make yourself a better person. Once he sees that you are doing well for yourself, he will begin to think you are a better person than he originally thought.
21. Appreciate Life
This one is important because it shows him that you are in a better place mentally than you were before the breakup. You may have been hurt by your ex-boyfriend, and there is plenty of time to get angry about the situation, but right now you need to be at peace with it. Look at the good things that you have in life and be grateful for everything that you have been given. This strategy is very calming and it will let him know that he was wrong for breaking up with you.
22. Be Loving & Kind
Do you always feel like you want to hurt him? Are you no longer able to be kind and loving because of what he did to you? You have been through a bad breakup, and it is perfectly natural to feel that way. The best thing you can do is focus on your mental health and become loving and kind again. It’s time that you start to love yourself and let go of your anger. Once he sees that you are being kind and loving, he will regret breaking up with you because of all the happiness that you bring to others.
23. Write About It
Writing about it is the best way to deal with an emotional experience. Get a notebook and write down all of your feelings and thoughts about the breakup. It will help you to process this painful experience, and it is often easier to share your story than it is to talk about it. This is the perfect opportunity to let your feelings out and discover what you need to do to feel better. When he sees how much you have grown and how much better you are now, he will realize that you are a better person than he ever thought you were.
Leaving someone you love is never easy. If you are going through a breakup right now, you are probably hurting and confused. It will take time to get over your ex-boyfriend and move on with your life. In the meantime, there is plenty of things that you can do to get yourself back on track. It does not matter if you have been dating for two years or twenty years, the healing process is always the same. Rather than focusing on the negative, shift your focus on becoming a better person.
If you are feeling depressed, humiliated, or embarrassed by the breakup, then it is time to get out of that mindset. The best way to move on is to learn from the situation and move forward. The sooner you start building yourself up, the quicker you will get over your ex-boyfriend. And once he realizes that you are a better person than ever before, he will regret breaking up with you.
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